The relationships we establish in our lives can challenge us in many different ways. Whether it’s the way you say things to your boss or how you handle sensitive subjects with your family or friends, these relationships help us grow and validate ourselves.
While there can be pitfalls associated with certain unhealthy relationships, we’re referring to the types of relationships where we’re challenged in positive ways that push us to grow as healthier individuals.
Relationships challenge us to discuss difficult things that make us grow. Do they always make us feel good about ourselves? Not always. This is part of the learning process. Relationships are a “mirror” for us. Learning to experience and deal with the challenges associated with relationships is where we find personal growth.
When a relationship challenges you, ask yourself: “What is this situation trying to teach me? How is it challenging me in this moment? “ In almost any relationship, you should expect that your deep-rooted concerns or fears will reveal themselves in such a way that it forces you to acknowledge and address them. Again, this is part of the learning process.
Why is this happening in our relationship? Should my friendships challenge me in this way? How do I view this argument with my partner?
Especially during times that feel “hard,” “frustrating,” or “stagnant” we can lose sight of what relationships are really for.
Relationships are for learning. Yes, we are even talking about friendships, work colleagues, business partners, our lovers, partners, kids.
Those times when we feel the relationship is full of conflict— yes, that’s for learning. For times when your friend says something that triggers a deep emotion– yes, that’s for learning. Those times when your partner doesn’t seem to be showing you love in ways you desire–yes, that’s for learning too.
To learn more, watch this short video where one viewer said: “I had no idea I could look at relationships like this. This is awesome!”
If you’re still seeking answers, ask yourself the following questions:
Q: What relationship in your life right now makes you feel confronted or upset?
Q: What is the lesson available to you in that relationship?
Q: What is it teaching you about yourself, or about life in general?
People are a mirror for us to see what we wouldn’t see otherwise. Sometimes the mirror is showing us a big lesson that our soul asked for. The lesson might feel hard at first, but there is something beautiful on the other side.
Wouldn’t our relationships look different to us if we saw them as beautiful ways to learn the most about ourselves? Thank them for being your greatest teachers.
Cheers to Partnership!
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