The Argument Hangover book by the Freemans

What is an Argument Hangover you ask?

Three stages of an argument hangover: the original argument, the argument hangover, and fully resolved and reconnected

You know that feeling, right after an argument you've had with your partner? You feel kinda sick to your stomach, your head is buzzing, and you're zoned out. You regret what you said (or how you said it), and you feel hurt by their actions as well. Almost like a food or alcohol hangover, right? Aaron and Jocelyn Freeman, your new favorite relationship experts, call this the "argument hangover."

In this relatable, no b.s. book for couples, The Freemans show you what causes The Argument Hangover® and how to clearly communicate your needs to feel understood and reconnect (without having to change each other).

The Argument Hangover is for you if you want

Step-by-step ways to shift from unhealthy conflict to healthy conflict
A guide for how to communicate so that both of you feel understood
To master your emotional triggers to better respond to your partner
The 5 R's to repairing after a conflict to fully forgive each other
To shift the way you see conflict that embraces challenging conversations

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What leaders are saying about the book

“The Argument Hangover is for any couple that wants to communicate better, resolve disagreements faster and have a relationship that others admire. The Freemans provide practical skills and exercises that both men and women will enjoy!”

Brenton EvansPresident of XO Marriage

“I've read all the popular relationship books, and none of them provide as much detail as The Argument Hangover does. I really like the way the chapters on how to see conflict in an empowering light, instead of resisting it. And their writing style appeals to both me and my husband, which is amazing for us.”

Carrie AntrimFounder of Multi-Family Women

“The Argument Hangover gives you a complete roadmap for understanding and moving beyond relationship conflict. You won't just learn why you so often end up in arguments, you'll learn powerful new tools to shift from the dreaded ‘argument hangover’ to what you really want: greater connection and love.”

Nate & Kaley KlempAuthors of 80/80 Marriage

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About the Authors

Jocelyn & Aaron Freeman

Known as The Freemans, Jocelyn and Aaron are a husband-and-wife team of marriage coaches whose content reaches over 20 million couples every month. Both hold master's degrees in psychology, and they have led more than 60 sold-out Couples Workshops.

They are the authors of both The Argument Hangover and Same Team, publishing with Penguin Random House in January 2027, which charted number one on Amazon the week they announced it. They have shared the stage with Tony Robbins, joined Ed Mylett on his podcast, and their own podcast ranks among the top twenty relationship shows on iTunes.

They are known for showing the real dynamics couples run into behind closed doors, the ones that make people say, "wait, are they watching us?" Everything they teach comes from that same place: the patterns couples actually live in, and the skills that change them.

Jocelyn and Aaron have been coaching couples for over a decade and are raising their daughter in Arizona.

Practical tools

Clear, usable strategies you can put to work the same day, not theory to figure out later.

Research-backed

Grounded in psychology without feeling clinical or disconnected from everyday life.

Highly relatable

Known for showing the exact dynamics couples experience behind closed doors.

Led by a couple

Guided by two people doing this same work in their own marriage, every day.

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